Bad (Boy) Timing

Boys. Have you ever thought you found the right one and then realized you were wrong? I have gone through a number of crushes recently. Just little ones, but still meaningful. 

I always seem to have a timing issue! When I like someone, they either don’t like me back, don’t want a relationship, or are dating someone else. Has this ever happened to you? Go figure, right?

What dating advice do you have for finding the right boy at the right time?

 

 

Dating advice: Help! We both like the same guy!

This weekend, one of our Girls With Dreams members asked us for some dating advice. She liked the same guy as her best friend and wanted to know how to handle the situation. This is a common problem! Here are a few tips to help you out if you’re ever faced with the same dilemma:

Your friendship is always the most important. Boys come and go, so think about how your friends have always been there for you.

Think about how you would feel if you were the other person. What are you going to do if this boy asks you out and not your friend? What if you are the friend that doesn’t get asked out?

Keep communication lines open. Talk about how each of you feel and don’t let competition or jealousy get the best of you. Both of you have beauty and grace, so use those attributes when deciding how you’re going work through the situation. Would either of you be okay if one of you was dating this guy and the other wasn’t?

Look for ways to build each other up. Remember that your value isn’t determined by whether or not this guy likes either of you.

We hope that helps!  For more dating advice for teens or if you want to make a comment or ask another question, please contact us at info@girlswithdreams.com.

Dating Advice for Teens: Boys make life difficult… sometimes.

This is my last year at Texas Tech University and guys have been an issue for me since my junior year of high school. Before this, I never really considered dating officially because I didn’t need a boyfriend. I already had two father figures in my life to protect me, my biological dad and my step-father. In the beginning of junior year, my dad got locked up for a year which lead to my need to start dating. My mother also left my step-dad, giving me another reason to date.

In my opinion, you can’t truly start dating someone unless you guys can actually go somewhere alone in your own car. I’ve been dating since junior year and my dad knew he would have to watch over me a little more when he got out of jail. I have learned to deal with them disliking some of the guys I like, but when is it actually fair for me to say, “they’ve gone to far”? Parents will always think their children can have someone “better than that”, but this time “that” is the guy I think I’m in love with.

This dilemma is spilling over into the rest of my life. I know it would be easy just to drop these two guys I like, but I really enjoy being with both of them. I’ve been seeing “guy number one” off and on for about two-and-a-half years. The only reason it’s been “off” and “on” is because my parents don’t like him. The characteristics I look for in a guy include a good personality, a sense of humor, gorgeous eyes, and good hygiene. But above all, the first thing I judge a guy by is his shoes.

Bottom line: I need a second opinion to help me sort this out. Guy number one is nice, makes me laugh, is good company,  gives me attention when I want it and will do anything I ask of him, but my parents don’t like him because he’s a different person when he drinks.

I met guy number two a couple of years ago, about the same time I met guy number one. He was doing some bad stuff and I didn’t like that, but I knew he was a good person deep down inside. I let him go and do his thing and knew I would see him again if it was meant to be. I worked as a server at a restaurant and saw him eating lunch with his parents. We said hi and I knew I still had a crush on him. We traded numbers before he left the place even though I was still with guy number one. I didn’t keep in touch with him, though, because I moved to St. Louis. For the fall 2008 semester, I moved back to Texas to finish my last year at Texas Tech University. I came back because most of my credits would not transfer to an out-of-state school, setting me back another two years! So, I decided to see what my crush was up to. I didn’t have his number anymore, but I found out from some friends that he was in prison.

His fault, but I knew he might need someone to talk to so I wrote him. We’ve been writing back-and-forth for about three months now.

Who do you think my parents would let me date? I know if it were up to them, it would be neither.

HELP! I’m stuck between these two guys that have fallen “in love” with me and I like them equally.

Dating Advice for Teens: My friends tease me for not dating.

This week, I was talking to some girls who are in middle school and my stomach began to turn as I heard another crazy story about dating. Yes, things like this happen every day all across America, but it doesn’t make it right! This middle school student was upset because all of her friends were teasing her for not having a boyfriend.

First of all, where is the friendship? Aren’t our friends supposed to like us unconditionally? Just because we start dating at different times doesn’t mean we can’t be friends! And what about this pressure to be with a boy? Where is that coming from? Why have her friends bought into this concept of “I need to have a boyfriend to be somebody” so much? Take a minute to think about the relentless messages about sexuality and dating thrown at young people. So, what can you do if you get into a dating dilemma like this one?

1. Stay true to yourself. Get quiet and listen to your heart and gut. What is it telling you to do? It might be hard, but staying true to yourself will help to set yourself up for the best scenario. This girl told me she felt like a coward. On the contrary, I told her that taking a stand was courageous, far more courageous than buying into the status quo.

2. Talk to an adult you trust. Let them know about the situation you are in. Ask them for ideas and input.

3. Be open to finding new friends. Friends change. Take a look at how you feel around your friends. Are they respecting you? Can you respect them? If you do change friends, the transition can be difficult but you’ll be better off in the end.

4. Write us at info@girlswithdreams.com and tell us about your dating dilemmas! We want to help.

Dating Advice for Teens: Homecoming Dating Tips

I couldn’t it believe when I heard that some schools have Homecoming this weekend. Already? I guess we’re half way through September, though. I guess I was just holding onto summer a little too much. That being said, it seems like girls and guys always feel pressure to have the right date for Homecoming. Does this sound familiar?

What if you don’t have a date?

Don’t stress! Use these tips to get you through and remember lots of girls and guys don’t have dates, you aren’t alone. Read more

Boys in the Army

This summer, my boyfriend left for Fort Leonard Wood, an army base in Missouri about three hours away from me. Although the experience has been quite different for me, it has also been very rewarding in many ways.  Read more

Dating Advice for Teens: Dealing with a Breakup

For every relationship you have, there will usually be a breakup. Having recently gone through one myself, I’m experiencing all those sad, mixed feelings. Read more

That Little Voice Inside You

This should be a precursor to every dating tip. Above all else, don’t ignore that little voice inside of you. You know, the one that quietly whispers, maybe he isn’t the right guy. Or the one that makes excuses for his rude behavior. Read more

The Yellow Dress

Did you know that over 1 in 4 relationships have some type of violence whether it is verbal or phsyical?  One study even suggested those numbers where were even higher.  It’s never ok to be put down.  If you, or your friends, are the victim of phsycial or verbal abuse, it’s important to get help. Read more

Dating Advice for Teens: How to Get a Guy by Being Yourself

I think girls are tired of trying to be perfect. Girls are tired of trying to be the perfect size, have the perfect hair, and wear the perfect clothes. What if girls were able to just be themselves? This can feel impossible at times, especially when you feel different than everyone else.

What I mean by this is that you should do the things you love doing in order to bring a smile to your face. Do you love soccer? Dancing? Scrapbooking? Playing guitar? Hanging with friends? Whatever it is, just do it.

You will feel happier and be happier, which will shine through. And when it’s the right time, you will find companionship in someone who also likes those things or respects what makes you, you.

Next Page »