Boys Make Life Difficult…Sometimes.
October 5, 2008
This is my last year at Texas Tech University and guys have been an issue for me since my junior year of high school. Before this, I never really considered dating officially because I didn’t need a boyfriend. I already had two father figures in my life to protect me, my biological dad and my step-father. In the beginning of junior year, my dad got locked up for a year which lead to my need to start dating. My mother also left my step-dad, giving me another reason to date.
In my opinion, you can’t truly start dating someone unless you guys can actually go somewhere alone in your own car. I’ve been dating since junior year and my dad knew he would have to watch over me a little more when he got out of jail. I have learned to deal with them disliking some of the guys I like, but when is it actually fair for me to say, “they’ve gone to far”? Parents will always think their children can have someone “better than that”, but this time “that” is the guy I think I’m in love with.
This dilemma is spilling over into the rest of my life. I know it would be easy just to drop these two guys I like, but I really enjoy being with both of them. I’ve been seeing “guy number one” off and on for about two-and-a-half years. The only reason it’s been “off” and “on” is because my parents don’t like him. The characteristics I look for in a guy include a good personality, a sense of humor, gorgeous eyes, and good hygiene. But above all, the first thing I judge a guy by is his shoes.
Bottom line: I need a second opinion to help me sort this out. Guy number one is nice, makes me laugh, is good company, gives me attention when I want it and will do anything I ask of him, but my parents don’t like him because he’s a different person when he drinks.
I met guy number two a couple of years ago, about the same time I met guy number one. He was doing some bad stuff and I didn’t like that, but I knew he was a good person deep down inside. I let him go and do his thing and knew I would see him again if it was meant to be. I worked as a server at a restaurant and saw him eating lunch with his parents. We said hi and I knew I still had a crush on him. We traded numbers before he left the place even though I was still with guy number one. I didn’t keep in touch with him, though, because I moved to St. Louis. For the fall 2008 semester, I moved back to Texas to finish my last year at Texas Tech University. I came back because most of my credits would not transfer to an out-of-state school, setting me back another two years! So, I decided to see what my crush was up to. I didn’t have his number anymore, but I found out from some friends that he was in prison.
His fault, but I knew he might need someone to talk to so I wrote him. We’ve been writing back-and-forth for about three months now.
Who do you think my parents would let me date? I know if it were up to them, it would be neither.
HELP! I’m stuck between these two guys that have fallen “in love” with me and I like them equally.
Do you really need all of that drama in your life? I know you care about them and they care about you, but it seems like they bring alot with them to deal with.
I agree with Carrie. It’s one thing if a guy has a few minor flaws (we all do), but the flaws that these guys have could turn out to be dangerous. We all deserve someone who challenges us and helps us grow into better people, and it seems like you would be doing more work than you would be getting back in return.
I hate to side with your parents, but they usually know what’s best for you even if it’s not the route that you want. If I were you, I would try to hold out for someone who would be able to focus on me a little more while trying to remain friends with these two guys (as long as there wasn’t too much drama and I wasn’t putting myself in dangerous situations).